What is stopping us from successfully building relationships, collaborating and being more satisfied

PURPOSE

We have probably often asked ourselves about our co-workers (as well family members): ‘How could he do something like that? No wonder he keeps having problems with co-workers and the boss.’ We may have also wondered about our own behaviour: ‘Why did I have to react like that…? This keeps happening to me …’

Maybe we thought to ourselves: ‘Why do these same things keeping happening to me in my life?! I can’t rely on anyone anymore!’ What happens in such situations? We are trying to change our behaviour and improve our interpersonal communication, but all our efforts are usually unsuccessful. Why? Because our learned past patterns are too strong and hinder us from affecting permanent change in ourselves (behaviour, communication, self-image, self-confidence).

You’ve probably already wondered why you then feel so drained of energy, tired, maybe even fed up …

What is happening within you then? What are your thoughts, emotions, feelings? What do you usually at such times?

In moments like this, we certainly can’t feel comfortable or ‘normal’; the whole thing can become even worse. What can help us take care of ourselves, our well-being – and consequently our health, and above all to improve our communication and collaboration with others?

We need to leave our past behind us, take a relaxed look, and look to the future. But first, we have to learn to live in the present.

We have wonderful options: mindfulness, so-called self-compassion, the polyvagal theory that is very useful in everyday life …

CONTENT

1. 1. IDENTIFY YOUR LIMITING BEHAVIOUR and CAUSES OF DEFENSIVE RESPONSES

• What are the ‘programmes‘ we formed in the past that still hinder our lives, collaborations, and interpersonal relationships today?
• Discover the reasons for repeating situations:
• Why do I always meet people who disappoint me?
• Why do I always respond so unreasonably in certain situations?
• Why do I always withdraw when I should react?
• Why am I always the scapegoat for all my boss’s nonsense?
• Determine how to eliminate these reasons:
• Control your emotions and inner fear/insecurity.
• Identify your wishes and needs, and learn to make them come true.
• What kind of addiction do I have in a relationship, and how do I ‘cure‘ this addiction.
• Why many bosses don’t know how to give praise.
• Who are we actually arguing with when we argue.

1. 2. EGO STATES

• Why do we criticise, get upset, look for guilty parties …?
• Why are we sometimes so very worried and feel helpless …?
• How do we act when we feel independent, calm, and confident?

1. 3. WHAT ARE THE LIMITING BELIEFS THAT PREVENT OUR COHABITATION OR CO-OPERATION WITH OTHERS

• How do our beliefs affect our lives?
• How are beliefs connected to our values?
• How can beliefs affect our thoughts, and how do our thoughts, in turn, affect our emotions, and how all together trigger our behaviour?
• What disturbs us so that we can’t act the way we want to?
• What would we like to change?
• What can we do (what does it mean to re-programme our limiting beliefs)?
• Are we trapped in our own cognitive distortions (12 cognitive distortions) that convince us to create problems and inner tension?
• What does it means to carry within us the prohibitions and counter-prohibitions that give rise to distorted thoughts that trigger our thoughts and unpleasant emotions, which often lead to defensive behaviour?
• How to improve your self-image?
• Why can’t we become more confident?

1. 4. MINDFULNESS – METHOD FOR REDUCING STRESS OR INNER TENSION:

• What does it mean to be mindful ‘here and now’?
• How to get in touch with yourself, so that we can get in touch with others?
• How to observe your thoughts?
• How to accept your emotions and sensations?
• What is ‘mindful breathing’?
• What does it mean to learn how to ‘centre‘ better, so that we can function in unpleasant stressful situations?

1. 5. REGULATING OF OUR INNER STATE SO THAT WE CAN SELECT THE CORRECT RESPONSE

• How does polyvagal theory help us (how do I learn to regulate my autonomic nervous system – how to strengthen the functioning of the parasympathetic nervous system; how do I deal with insecurity, fear, feeling threatened and similar)?
• What do the states of mobilisation and immobilisation mean, and what is the so-called social nervous system; what methods do I have at my disposal – practical exercises or approaches?
• What does it mean to be compassionate towards myself? What is my inner dialogue then (especially in stressful or conflict situations)?

GOALS – Benefits for participants

• First, it will be necessary to examine our current behaviour, co-operation or interpersonal relationships, and the causes for such behaviour.
• You will learn to recognise your three ego states, which will help you recognise your old patterns of functioning (acquired or learned).
• You will learn how to recognise your limiting beliefs and their effects on your thoughts, emotions and behaviour that cause internal tension and distress.
• You will learn specific exercises for stopping in awkward situations, to be aware of the present moment and to observe yourself – your breathing, thoughts and emotions, and sensations. Most importantly, you will learn ways to respond in such situation (to accept them and not to change them).
• You will learn approaches to how you can ‘teach‘ your body to calm down, to relax, so that you can feel better – especially before, during and after unpleasant situations.

WORKSHOP

The workshop is organised in person or on-line using various platforms (Zoom, MS Teams). The number of hours per meeting is determined by agreement with the customer.

WORK METHOD

Workshops and training sessions consist of: short input sessions, discussions, individual, pair, and group work.

The techniques I employ aim to encourage participants to immediately apply what they have learned to their daily routine.

DURATION

Our basic programmes comprise 16 academic hours, while shorter programmes last 8 academic hours (these programmes involve fewer exercises and practical examples). We recommend a minimum of 24 academic hours if you seek to train your employees thoroughly.

NUMBER OF PARTICIPANTS

The recommended number of participants per workshop is 20; and 10 per training. The client may, of course, opt for a larger number of participants. In this case, a training session becomes a workshop, and a workshop becomes a seminar/lecture (over 25 participants).

PRICE

The prices of workshops, training sessions, seminars/lectures depend on their duration, the number of participants, and additional preparation time (i.e., analysing participants’ level of proficiency, designing customised solutions, etc.). The final price is always agreed upon in advance with the client.