Everything we learn, and all the experiences we gain, stem from relationships with other people.
In my 30 years of practice, I have helped people find their own resources and potentials to get to know themselves and others, to get in touch with themselves and others, to know their rights and responsibilities and the rights and responsibilities of others. This makes it easier for them to start functioning (including with others), easier to set boundaries, to stand up for themselves, to say no, to express their opinion, to communicate more successfully, to resolve conflict situations, to look for common solutions or follow their own solutions supported by reason.
In a safe and non-judgemental environment, we explore our past limiting patterns of thinking, experiencing, and behaving – either in a group or with individuals. Together, we look for ways to recognise their desires, needs and interests, and to respect or consider the wishes, needs and interests of others. We thus explore the possibilities of how to communicate successfully and effectively, assertively without the defences that are the legacy of our past, and free ourselves from old burdens to turn to the future and live our lives to the fullest, knowing that we have room for change and, above all, that we have a choice in how we (begin to) live.
I graduated from the Academy of Theatre, Radio, Film and Television at the University of Ljubljana. I have been regularly updating my knowledge at Harvard University (The Program on Negotiation at Harvard Law School, USA). In 2002, I obtained the international certificate and the title of NLP trainer; in 2005, at the University of Santa Cruz (USA) I also received the international license and title of NLP coach. I am a certified integrative (relational) psychotherapist (at the Institute for Integrative Psychotherapy and Counselling in Ljubljana (IPSA) and at the International Integrative Psychotherapy Association (IIPA)). I am also a member of the Slovenian Society of the Integrative Psychotherapy and Transactional Analysis (SINTA) and of the I.I.P.A. In 2012 I became a teacher of mindfulness (at IPSA in Ljubljana).
short list of those who had the greatest impact on my career path
As a teenager, I was only interested in art. So I first graduated from music and ballet school but then realised that theatre and film were more appealing to me. I continued my education at the Academy of Theatre, Radio, Film and Television, programme of Dramaturgy. I was drawn most strongly to dialogue – dialogue in dramatic texts. I was attracted to stories, the plights of individual who, due to unresolved personal conflicts, come into conflict with other people and their environment. I wondered what was happening within the dramatic characters, what they were experiencing, what they were feeling, what they were thinking about, where they saw a way out of their conflict, whether they had enough knowledge and ability to resolve the conflict.
I never imagined that dialogue would become my life’s work and mission at the same time – to help people learn how to build better dialogues, especially when they find themselves in conflict situations; to help them be able to hear each other, to express or describe their subjective inner world, to respond to the outside world, to build interpersonal relationships through dialogue, and to improve co-operation in order to achieve their desired goals.
The dialogue of dramatic characters had been replaced by the dialogue of everyday people. Characters in tragedies and comedies had been replaced by people with everyday distress, problems, or conflicts, who needed help, as their endings had not yet been written down and determined as imagined by playwrights or screenwriters. They can choose and determine it by themselves; however for that, they need knowledge and especially skills that they can develop, and thus they realise their desires and achieve their goals through dialogue. They can learn to write the endings to the stories they find themselves in.